It is much simpler than you think… I know you will instantly mistrust this statement, and that is because you’ve probably tried, and your experience has been unpleasant. You are facing a change you dread and can’t move forward. So, you’ve become frustrated with the effort and starting to admit defeat.
The point is: you need a strategy to make changes you dread. And that strategy has to be holistic, not specific to whatever you want to achieve. The specificity comes next once you’ve outlined your overall plan.
Take a pen and paper and write everything down—step by step, from 1 to 4. First, describe your problem. Second, detail all negative emotions and, immediately after, list the positive ones you crave to feel. Underline them. Next, describe your opportunities and the solutions. Then, walk away from your work and review it the following day. Are new possibilities coming to mind? They usually do. So, reset your options. Pick up a new path, even if it means a steep learning curve and a longer time to achieve results.
Write down the name of the people you trust and want to involve in this process. If you have difficulty deciding whom to involve, think about who in your circle will not try to stop you from changing, who accepts you with your flaws and wishes you well. Put those names on the list and share with them your plan.
Try this strategy and make that change you dread a fresh and positive start. All the time you take upfront to get emotionally and practically prepared guarantees you will succeed in this transformation.
You can do this! Contact me if you prefer to move faster and skip the learning curve, and I will be happy to help.